How to Meet Your Love Online and in Reality

How to Choose a Girl

So you've selected an app or site like GoDateNow, added your photos, and completed your profile. After that, you get access to hundreds and thousands of profiles of various girls who also want to meet. As we have already said, we do not advise you to like everyone in a row, choose those girls whose photos you really liked. Study the profiles and description, think about whether the one on the other side of the screen suits you. Yes, you will spend more time on such a detailed study. But this again will increase the chances of finding the right person.

Places for Dating

On the street or public transport

This option is for the most fearless and those who are not at all afraid of failure. Why is this option more difficult than others? Remember how we all walk down the street - we are always in a hurry somewhere, we are in our thoughts and often do not even look at the people passing by. But what to do if you met the girl of your dreams on the street? Take action! Come up with a question and go. You can also show attention - ask, for example, if you need help with bags. In any case, remember that it is always better to try and get rejected than not to try at all and then regret it. The main advice - do not approach the girl with the question: "Can I meet you?". But more on that later.

Cafe, bar or restaurant

If you see that a girl is alone in such places, this is a great opportunity to talk to her. Even if she is in the company of friends, you can also try to get to know her. Come up with something that can start a dialogue. For example, ask if the girl has been here before. If she answers yes, you can ask what her favorite dish is. In a more relaxed environment compared to transport or the street, your chances will be much higher.

Exhibition, museum, theater

This is the best place for dating because it's the easiest place to come up with a question and start a conversation - you already have one common interest. For example, the work of some artist or the production of a play.

Ways to Meet

Ask for help

Pretend that you are lost and you need to explain the way. Perhaps your phone is dead and you need to know the time. In a restaurant, again, a great option would be to ask for advice about your favorite dish. And in the theater - did you like the first act, or did the director add too much of the author's look.

Show attention

It could be an offer to help with the package. Give up your seat in the transport and start a dialogue. Or hold the door and make eye contact. Just don't be too zealous with contact, otherwise you may look strange.

Use a sense of humor

According to statistics, a sense of humor plays one of the main roles for girls when meeting a guy. This cannot be ignored. Come up with a witty joke and start your acquaintance with it. In this way, your communication can immediately become informal and start with ease.

Life Hacks - How to Deal with Shyness

The biggest enemy of all dating in real life is, of course, shyness. And if it is peculiar to you, then first of all you will have to deal with it. How to do it?

1. Find a hobby to pursue while in groups. It can be anything - from learning a foreign language to a conversation club. The main condition is that during the lesson you need to communicate more with people of both sexes.
2. Overcome the fear of talking to strangers on the street. First, it is worth practicing on simple questions about how to get to the subway or some building. And later try to compliment passers-by. Compliment someone's bright coat or nice umbrella. Think not that you might look weird, but that you will do two good things at once - overcome your fear and cheer up the other person.
3. Do an experiment. At first glance, it may seem too difficult for you. It consists in getting as many rejections as possible. You need to ask passers-by if you can meet them, and get about 10-15 refusals. The bigger, the better. No, we don't want to lower your self-esteem. On the contrary, this exercise will teach you that you will only feel unpleasant the first few times, while later you will deal with rejection much easier. Because in reality, there is nothing wrong with rejection. And only the one who never tries anything new does not receive refusals.

What to Remember

Appearance

Remember that the first thing a girl will pay attention to is, of course, your appearance. Namely your neatness, grooming and style in clothes. No one says that you have to look like a Hollywood actor, but it is unlikely that at least some girl will be attracted to dirty shoes or old clothes.

Self confidence

Self-confidence is generally the most important thing when meeting. Even if you follow all the other rules, but at the same time you are embarrassed to ask questions, hesitate and lower your eyes, it is unlikely that your acquaintance will be successful.

The right place to meet

You need to meet a girl in crowded places where she feels confident. And this is definitely not worth doing in some dark alleys or underground passages.

No - it's not

Yes, you need to be confident and moderately persistent, but remember that a firm “no” is always a “no”. And there are no other options here. Respect her choice and don't be upset because there are many other girls around who will definitely say yes.

How Not to Do

Can I meet you?

By asking such a question, you shift the responsibility and initiative to the girl, that is, your further communication immediately depends on her and on her answer. In addition, to such a question “on the forehead”, you will most likely receive a negative answer, which the girl will give you simply on the machine. Come up with something more unusual and less direct.

Solid platitudes

If you ask questions like “Does your mom need a son-in-law?”, you are unlikely to get to know each other. Avoid such platitudes and exaggerated romanticized compliments to a girl, because they can simply scare her away.

Insincerity

The insincerity is felt immediately. If you pretend to be someone that you are not, the girl will either understand it right away or understand it later. There is no point in trying to please another person, while demonstrating behavior, gestures, facial expressions or communication style that are not characteristic of you.

Behavior like a pickup truck graduate

Use only adequate advice, which is based primarily on a respectful attitude towards the girl. To understand if you have chosen a good method for dating, conduct a small experiment. Imagine that in this way someone is trying to get acquainted, for example, with your sister. If at the same time you do not feel negative emotions, then it's time to use this method yourself.

Where to Start Dating

When you have found a girl you like, and she reciprocated, it's time to start a dialogue.

1. Don't just start a conversation with "Hi" or "Hi, how are you?" Let's be honest: you are not particularly interested yet in how a stranger is doing. Just like a girl is unlikely to start telling you about it in the first message. Therefore, at best, you will hear something like “It’s okay, how are you?”, And at worst and most likely, you won’t hear anything at all.
2. You should also not start a conversation with the phrase that she has beautiful eyes, legs, or any other part of her body. Surely she has heard this more than once and again she will answer with a simple “Thank you”, if at all she answers that she also does not set up a dialogue.
3. Take the time to prepare your first message and write something out of the ordinary. You can ask a question about something from her profile or ask where is such a beautiful beach on which she was photographed for the third photo.
4. Do not overwhelm the girl with messages. If she hasn't responded in a few hours (and in some cases a few days - because many people go to dating apps from time to time when they think about them), then don't be discouraged and just write to others.

Top Tips

1. Decide what kind of girl you are looking for. What age and what interests
2. Complete your profile in detail and study the profiles of girls
3. Write lightly, don't make the girl wait for hours for your response and, very importantly, try to write without errors and without using too many abbreviations like "sss", "priv" and other things. This greatly spoils the impression
4. Think over the first message and avoid platitudes
5. Do not take rejection painfully, it does not mean at all that something is wrong with you. Just keep looking
6. In correspondence, do not invent something that is not there, trying to impress a girl, do not be rude and do not use, for example, black humor, as not everyone may like it
7. Avoid discussing politics and religion, because these are too controversial topics that can lead to misunderstandings and arguments
8. Do not drag out the correspondence for too long, but do not offer to see you in the first message, take a short pause
9. Universal advice for all occasions - always and everywhere be yourself