Tips to Help You Deal with Your In-Laws The Right Way

One important thing every newlywed should expect, is to face some issues with their in-laws.

Sometimes one side of the family can be the cause of some issues, but this doesn't mean that all respect and understanding is gone.

Dealing with the issue you face with your in-laws the right way will help you and them overcome any other issues you face in the future.

Avoid getting mad or angry, and deal with the issues in the most calm way possible.

On of the most common issues between married couples and their in-laws, is that some couples feel that their in-laws interfere too much in their lives, and try to control it, or sometimes jealousy can be a big issue between couples and their in-laws as well.

Here are some of the most common issues you can face with your in-laws and how to deal with them the right way:

• Interfering:

Before getting annoyed that your in-laws are interfering in your wedding or life in general, try to remember that you need to but some limits for your parents and your in-laws as well. Don't share every single detail about your lives, don't expect them not to interfere when you share every single detail of your life and wedding with them.

Ask your partner to keep some details private and not share every detail with his/her parents.

For more tips read our article: "Is Your Family Interfering with Your Wedding Planning?"

• Criticism:

Criticism can cause many issues between married couples and their in-laws, sometimes the wife can get angry if her mother in-law criticizes her and comments on her every move, but there is no need for you to get angry and tell your husband that his parents hate you, and make a big deal out of it, instead,  when you get criticized, calmly explain to your in-laws that you respect their opinion but at the end of the day the final decision is yours.

Also read: "5 Most Common Daughter-Mother In Law Issues"

• Controlling:

Some in-laws especially the mothers, tend to be a bit controlling of their children, and even though your husband is a grown up, married man, his parents probably still deal with his as a young single man, which can be annoying at times.

For example, they may want you to spend a certain day of the week with them, as a tradition, which may seem normal to some couples, while others don't like the idea of it, why?

Because some couples work all week, and want to spend the weekend together, doing something they both enjoy, and it can be a bit overwhelming to spend every weekend at one's in-laws.

Try to be more flexible for them to be flexible as well, visit them on different days of the week, so that when you miss the weekend gathering they won't feel neglected, also explain honestly that you would like to spend some time alone with your partner.

• Jealousy:

Jealousy is very common among couples and their in-laws, sometimes it is true, but many times you can be misunderstanding their actions.

Whether you feel your in-laws are jealous, or you are jealous from your in-laws, there is a way to deal with it. 

Remember that they are your partner's parents, and they can't easily stop caring or interfering in his life even though he is married.

If you feel there is a need to address the issues, then explain calmly to your partner how you feel.

You also might like our article: "How Your Husband’s Siblings or Lack of Them Will Shape Your Marriage"